I know of a person by the name of BT, who's a Sri Lankan living in UK. This guy has been a very busy boy (to put it subtly). Now he's got himself a girlfriend, and he's planning on getting married. His girlfriend doesn't know about his past and the question has come up as to whether he should tell her or not.
Unfortunately, the day and age is such that honesty may not always be the best policy - but that's a different topic altogether.
By not telling her would he be lieing to her? Yes. Should he start off his life with her based on a lie (as in he will have given her a different impression of him than is actually the case)? If he told her the truth, it is unlikely that she will hang around, and his past is such that very few psychologically balanced females would accept. It will be near impossible for him to have an honest relationship in this way. So I guess the coin falls on the side of not telling her.
What if she finds out in some way? Well then he'll just have to deal with it if that happens. Besides, being honest with her doesn't guarantee that she will be honest with him about her past.
Whatever has happened in the past before he started going out with her, whether told or not, the most important thing is that he treats her well during the relationship. He can't change the past, but what he can do is stay true to her in the relationship.
