A woman I've known for about 20 years will be getting married tomorrow. To give a brief intro about her, she lost her parents when she was young (around 8 years old), has not had any education and has no family members that she associates with. She mainly took care of my invalid grandmother, but also helped around the house and prepared the meals.
She was proposed to a guy in December last year. I recently met the guy and she, in my opinion, could do better. However, everyone else thinks that the guy is great. Maybe I'm missing something.
To me she seems to be in love with the concept of getting a husband rather than the man himself. I guess there's no other option for her. My grandmother is no longer with us, and the house was sold so this is what needs to be done for her to have a future. Staying single and alone without any family in this country is not for the faint of heart.
I feel both happy and sad for her. Happy that she is getting married and embarking on a new life, but sad that she didn't get to marry someone she met and fell in love with.
Falling in love, in all its glory, is something no one should be denied. I know she will fall into her role as a wife and take it from there. Maybe people that get married this way have less issues, as when you are in love with someone, naturally you expect to have that returned, you have expectations in the way you want to be treated, and there is a tendency to be more sensitive to what the other person does or says.
She is treating this as a next step in her life. I don't see any excitement from her, there's no sparkle in her eye even though her wedding's tomorrow. She seems as if she's resigned herself to the fact and it makes me sad.
Maybe I'm just a naive romantic in expecting an upcoming wedding to fill the bride with excitement and joy (yes I know there is a lot of stress involved too which tends to overshadow the event - but that is not the case here as everything is basically ready), but I really think that it should be a happy time as well filled with anticipation. However I am also realistic enough to realise that not everyone gets it that way.
I hope she finds happiness.
